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How Self Pleasure increases energy and decreases stress and anxiety

Self Pleasure 101

I am a strong advocate for self-pleasure. Self-pleasure is fundamental to living a life filled with joy, especially for women. Self-pleasure has been a primary self-development tool in my life even though I felt like I had a late start to my self-pleasure journey, and like many young women “pleasure” was looked at as a sin, and being sexually empowered or having knowledge about my sexual nature was not thought on with much support in my family of origin. #BridgertonRelatability 

I have healed those thought errors, and much has blissfully changed in my life 🙂  

Many women who are out of touch with their sacral energy and womb space are stuck in a more chronic state of level 1 and 2 energy (anxiety and depression) and are neglecting their self-pleasure, including the most powerful which is channeling their own sacred sacral sexual energy. Life force energy. There’s a correlation between low energy overall and low sexual drive. Shifting and elevating your energy is a result of elevating your sexual drive and self-pleasure. It’s energy science (energy graph reference). Level 7, ecstasy and ultimate inclusion lift your overall energy. You can be the conduit and self-generate without involving someone else and their energy which could be unknown, unregulated, or unintentional.  

Better energy cums with focusing on your pleasure 😉.  

Your sexual energy is the ultimate way of loving and healing yourself. More below on Chakrubs. 

Actively participating and worshipping yourself is a way of glorifying God(dess)’s creation, and the womb is the place of creation. All creation. Self-pleasure is prayer and devotion. You’re taking the time to get to adorn your center of creation, and through providing that care, you will be better at selecting candidates that will treat you well in all ways. And you’ll be able to lead them to the sweetest spots. Great energy releases happen through orgasms of all kinds. Releasing stored trauma in the body, opening the hips and cervix serves as great emotional releases where altered states of consciousness bring us closer to our highest self. Sex is not a sin and self-sex is devotion.

I have yet to encounter a woman who doesn’t hold stories of shame and guilt around her sexuality that are directly associated with religion, the patriarchy, or even her mother. Yet in our culture women’s bodies are for the use of men’s pleasure, women are actively objectified, minimized, hurt, and their pleasure is not often considered outside of projecting it for the male gaze. Many women have the inability to reach orgasm, some don’t feel the desire to pleasure themselves at all, while some women rely on a man for pleasure. I call this pleasure co-dependence. Each example is normal if one resonates; you are in a community and I want to be your leader to introduce you to another way.

Consider this. If there were 2 twin sisters, one of them is well pleasured. By herself and by her lover, she’s able to better balance her life and work to ensure she’s prioritizing her needs. Her sister doesn’t practice self-pleasure and she’s a high performer who rarely takes time for herself. Do you think you could tell the difference? Create the story in your mind and observe what you think would be different with the 2.   

Now it’s time to get into your body.

Here are 3 simple self-pleasure tips that will elevate your joy (level 6) & ecstasy (level 7) today.

These tips are specifically for women who want are interested in shifting their energy naturally, organically, and by getting curious with self-pleasure, and you want some direction on where to begin:

1. Know & Commit to taking time

You may be single, you may have a partner and still desire to explore (amen!), or you may be a mom – all are welcome, self-pleasure is medicine and if it’s important to you, then you would benefit to know when you would benefit from this practice the most. For me – it’s the best 15 (or 30) minute break from me. If I’m overwhelmed with a project or I’m lacking some creative juice? I “plugin.” I can’t think of a time that I didn’t create an enormous energetic payoff. Morning to start your day may be ideal. Maybe before bed. Commit to your exploration, you’ve been given an amazing pleasure portal that was designed for you to explore and feel. Get naked and breathe.

2. Coconut oil-based Ritual 

Coconut oil is an amazing natural lubricant, it smells like an island, feels amazing, and has many benefits for your yoni or vulva (ant-aging & antimicrobial). Using coconut oil as a massage medium allows you to observe what feels good to you. Every woman desires a different style of self-pleasure based on her sexual blueprint, it’s important that you don’t marinate in comparison or outside influence but that you really bear witness to your own longings. You are one of a kind, and so are your sacral energy and yoni. The “goal” is to be with how your yoni reacts to different touch; fast, slow, rough, gentle – explore what feels good for you.

Remember this energy-shifting technique is how you get to know the most intimate part of your body and increase your anabolic hormones. Make this practice a regular on your weekly schedule and you’ll be delighted at how it contributes to your overall feeling of happiness and well-being!

3. Invest in a Chakrub

One of my favorite investments to support my self-pleasure has been my crystal wands and yoni eggs. Self-love is something you practice alone with support, Chakrubs are your pleasurable companions on your journey.

Chakrubs are sex toys made from natural crystals that bring a sense of sacredness to your playtime. These beautiful, hand-crafted tools are created with the intention of opening oneself up to the healing properties crystals provide. Crystals have perfect molecular structures that have positive effects on our electromagnetic fields. When our energetic bodies are at ease, we are at ease, we are open to healing, peace, love, to all of life’s pleasures.

‘Chakrubs’ derives from Chakra, a Sanskrit word describing energy wheels. Chakrubs urge you to feel deeply, passionately, and subtly. Light up your chakras, and create an intentional practice that not only gets you off but turns you on in a way in which you will remain turned on and awakened with a renewed sense of self-awareness and wisdom.

I have several wands and yoni eggs, and I will continue to invest in these treasures.

current fav: Indian jade slim link

Original fav: Xaga – Curve)

Journal questions to consider

  • What is my earliest memory of being attracted to someone?
  • What messages did I get as a child about love and sex?
  • What was the message about sex and morality?
  • What type of sexual education did you receive?
  • When have I felt the most confident about my body?
  • What did I learn about sex growing up from my parents, society, church, “men” or “women”?
  • Who is someone I admire who seems confident? What do I love about them?
  • What are you attracted to in a person?
  • What is something that you need to keep feeling attracted to someone?
  • What do you like to give/receive? 
  • What do you want of sex?