I'm Jacqueline Stevens, a Yale Certified Soulful Alignment Coach.
I guide single female executives in navigating their own self-discovery & deep desires so they can attract deeply fulfilling meaningful relationships. I help high-performing boss babes who are ready to stop solely focusing on their career and are ready to start attracting a soulful, juicy, and aligned relationship centered on love, joy and growth.
I was someone who "had it all". I was highly successful in my career, climbing the corporate ladder for some of the sexiest beauty brands on the planet. I had the fancy job title, high-rise living in uptown Oakland and frequent global travel, but I struggled with creating a roadmap (strategy) for my relationships. I struggled in knowing what I really wanted. Through my deep personal work with coaching, cognition, emotion (energy in motion) and spirituality I’ve developed a method that cracks the code for the modern millennial woman to create LOVE, joy, ease, growth and so much more pleasure in her life. More pleasure than any career can provide!
My Dark Night of the Soul started seeding in 2017. I was exhausted from my life of hyper high performance, desire to have & achieve, and my unaligned relationship.
I was diagnosed with burnout, and decided to leave my 15+ year career in the beauty industry in global training & development and my relationship of almost 7 years, all within a matter of weeks.
I had some massive holes in my heart and ego, so much healing to do, and a ton to figure out about my life & future.
In my mind & heart, I had 2 major problems to solve:
1. Wtf is next in my life and career?
2. How do I figure out love? How do I find an aligned supportive passionate partnership?
Before I dove into those massive existential questions, my entire being needed a pause. A reset.
That reset was activated in Bali.
Bali was the experience that opened me up to seeing how life really could be more simple,
more beautiful and have more meaning. Bali was the start of my “Eat Pray Love” spiritual and internal quest to rediscover who TF I was without all of the external achievements, roles and relationships I had defined myself by.
In navigating my new career, I knew the value I wanted to offer was supporting people with deep change. My ideas were to become a therapist or a coach.
My intuition chose coaching because it’s rooted in expansion and opportunity.
Therapy focused more on dysfunction and healing.
Both have incredible value.
For the first time in my life, I started to center and align myself as my biggest priority, not my job, not my performance, not my relationships.
I knew this was the most powerful gift I could bring to the world.
I pursued my own personal & professional development full time.
I gained a variety of coaching & wellness certifications (IPEC & Yale)
Mastered emotional energetics (Master Energy & Reiki Practitioner)
Attended workshops (The Assembly SF, The Coven MPLS, The Den LA)
Hired incredible coaches (Spiritual, Relationship & Business)
Read 90+ books (on Grief, Human Psychology, Masculine & Feminine Biology & Energetics, Dating & Relationships, Neuroscience, Productivity, Sex & Tantra, Spirituality)
Went to therapy (worked on my grief & unresolved traumas)
Traveled (I took 3 solo cross country road trips, listened to tons of books and had endless days of introspection
Became a dedicated yogini (600+ hours & -50lbs),
And healed as I started understanding myself in a whole, healthy & loving way
Through these integrated modalities I was confirming that I was no longer willing to play a passive role in my own life.
When I started my coaching business, Joy With Jax, I initially supported overwhelmed, ambitious executives, who were struggling with corporate burnout and who were looking for more purpose in their lives (the work I had done deeply already). The work was deep and the work started to expand.
In my personal life? I was researching, aligning to & seeing aligned love.
I knew what I had experienced before (and what I saw modeled), was not what I wanted in my future.
I became obsessed with understanding and applying the psychological, biological, strategic and energetic tools for relationships, dating and love that I was learning through my studies.
All while proactively applying these skills in my everyday life and in everydate night.
The fun? Dating energetics were like magik!
I was blown away by my growth and elevated experiences in my love life. I was living a 180 compared to my undereducated dating experiences in my 20’s which relied on chemistry, connection and a few pre-qualifier questions.
Through my deep work (and 50+ first dates on Hinge amidst a global pandemic),
I became aware of my relational patterns,
developed a structure to get crystal clear on my wants & needs,
mastered my relationship mindset where I wasn’t ruled by my emotions,
I could see & feel myself moving towards aligned love as I was simultaneously surrendering
and trusting the process & the timing of it all.
It felt incredible to have FINALLY created clarity and to feel worthy, empowered and confident in my ability to be curiously engaged with potential partners.
A couple years into my coaching practice I started to notice a theme.
My female clients would often come to me with the desire to elevate, fix or de-stress their careers.
Yet underneath their career was a much bigger & more primal desire.
Something that had the power to impact, support and fulfill their lives more.
And that... Was partnership in love.
The other theme? Women were scared to admit the gap of love in their life.
Why? because it was less “controllable.”
Gaining skills for a job is easy. But where do women learn relationship skills?
And in this stage of adult life modern women are looking for PARTNERSHIP - not just a piece of paper.
I started to see that just like me, my clients wanted to connect deeply and intimately with incredible Men.
Just like me, my clients wanted to be seen, accepted and loved unconditionally by an equal & complimentary partner.
Just like me, women wanted a teammate, an aligned partnership, a container to grow, have adventures, and space for interdependent evolution, encouragement, and GROWTH.
So I got back to work. I combined my coaching experience, personal experience and my corporate experience in Learning & Development to create a program that supports women to create deeper relationships while also deepening their own self-development. A program that goes BEYOND surface, mediocre exchanges and focuses on your whole soul.
One of my favorite teachers, Esther Perel, says it best -
“The quality of our lives is determined by the quality of our relationships.”
So if you are ready to transform your relationship with yourself, show up authentically & wholeheartedly in your dating life, and be empowered to unlock your full love life potential?
That is what I am on this planet to do.
I want you to look forward to celebrating your current partnership, your engagement, your sacred union.
I want you to stop wondering “what the f is wrong with me,” reframe your self-doubt & anxiety and start taking forward aligned action.
I would love to support you in shifting your: loneliness, the frustrating hamster wheel of online dating, soulless hookups, swearing off dating completely, non-committal “situationships,” and relationships messes.
I want you to create a commitment that you can serve and it can serve you in return.
This world desperately needs more women to be plugged into their feminine hearts and desires,
to take off their shallow corporate masks and lean into their intimate relationships
and I promise you -
there are so many Men, KINGS, that want, need, and are looking for that empowered version of you too.
Working with Jacqueline is one of the best decisions I’ve ever made and has been the best investment of my life.
I’m more excited, empowered & on purpose in my life than I’ve ever been. She’s helped me create a more beautiful life.
I actually think she’s a God damn Jedi.
“It felt like working with Jacqueline was this 𝒉𝒖𝒈𝒆 permission slip to 𝒃𝒆 myself.”
"When I started working with Jax, I was amazed and how powerful and insightful she was.
She helped me explore things about myself and relationships that I had never explored myself.
I learned more about myself than I had ever imagined.
I walked away from our sessions feeling lighter, feeling empowered and feeling excited - things that I had not felt about dating in years."
Jacqueline is a breath of fresh air! Working with her has been so good for my soul and spirit. I've recently made some life and job transitions and am currently in the process of launching my own business. Fears, insecurities, doubt about past choices I've made....all of these emotions are rearing their ugly little heads, sometimes making it difficult to keep moving forward. Jacqueline has a gentle way of encouraging me to really pause and think about my thoughts and the way I've interpreted past situations - helping me to differentiate between the stories my mind has created and what the actual, capital "T" Truths are. She asks probing questions in such a compassionate way that I find myself with many "ahas!" throughout our calls and am reminded of the power of staying true to my path. I always end our sessions with a greater sense of peace. Jacqueline truly understands the mind, body, soul connection and actually walks the talk - she coaches with great integrity, compassion and authenticity. I continue to discover new ways of perceiving things every time we talk, and am so grateful for the supportive coaching and love I've received from her!
Jacqueline hears me in a way I have never experienced - regardless the context of our conversation - I walk away with a sense of peace and empowerment. She is powerful.
Jax has helped me numerous times to quickly clarify what is important and how to immediately let go of what is not. Her compassion and generous heart is nature herself. Jax is incredibly Giving with her Guidance and Support. She brings forth joy and laughter in the toughest of life situations. She is constantly helping me to flip my perceptions on a dime so that my life moves with increased ease and acceptance. Jax embodies the true nature of the Goddesses. Everyone in community benefits from her help to live in a higher vibration. I am so grateful every time I get to work with Jacqueline!
Jacqueline is remarkable coach, guide and intuitive
sprinkling in levity and joy.
My job is to be a student of you.
I call you into the higher version of yourself.
My clients describe sessions with me as peaceful yet powerful. They gain wisdom & clarity with each touchpoint.
I support clients in developing their emotional fitness & resiliency while I advocate for their overall wellness, ease pleasure in themselves, their lives, love and relationships.