How often do you often play the victim in your life or relationships?
Where it feels like things are being done to you.
Man, I’ve been there, I feel that, and it’s one of the #1 things I hear from my incoming clients.
Being a victim can sound like this:
“This job has robbed me of all my confidence.”
“After years of fighting for my needs in that relationship, I finally left.”
Yes, there’s truth in those statements, and staying in the energy of the victim (level 1 energy) doesn’t serve you.
Both of these statements are l a result of people having, what I call,
LBS looks like:
1. Feeling drained, tired, or self-conscious after spending time with certain people.
2. Have a strong physical reaction to the emotions of others.
3. You worry constantly about others and can’t seem to stop.
4. You feel guilty saying no.
5. You’re not sure how to restore your energy.
Setting strong personal boundaries isn’t the cure-all for your relationship woes. But it certainly saves you energy. In fact, boundaries are a mere symptom of having healthy awareness & self-esteem.
If someone had high levels of self-esteem, their job or a relationship couldn’t “rob” them of that. There’s no room for being a victim when you’re in your soul self.
Boundaries in relationships work both ways: they create emotional health and they are created by people with emotional health.
They are something you can start working on today with the people close to you and you’ll begin to notice a difference in your self-esteem, confidence, emotional fitness, and relationship health.
And in intimate relationships, boundaries are sexy.
If you’re dating someone and your date tells you what kind of relationship they are looking for and what they are available for? That’s a boundary. A deliciously clear boundary.
If LBS kills joy,
Are you interested in the antidote?
You likely have LBS if these ring true:
If you answered “yes” to even a few of the above, then you probably have LBS in your life and relationships.
If you answered a hell “yes” to most or all of the items above, you have a major boundary problem in your relationships and you also have some other personal problems going on in your life.
My method is ABCD.
A = Awareness, you must create an awareness of your energy (which we can do with my Energy Blueprint)
B = Boundaries, you must determine what are the boundaries that you want to start implementing in your life.
C = Communication, you gotta (and I mean you have GOT to) start to communicate differently.
D = Direction, direct your energy to sources that bring you joy.
Awareness, Boundaries, Communication, and Direction are all vital elements of creating amazing relationships. And all of those are outcomes of my coaching program.
Having these skills can move your relationships from co-dependent to interdependent.
From surviving to thriving.
And isn’t it about time you started to THRIVE in your life and relationships?
How joyfully delicious.
co-dependent versus interdependent relationships